Hand Drawn, 75 pages, 12 Chapters
I've made all the mistakes, so you don't have to
This is not your typical dating advice. My Lesbian Dating Survival Guide teaches you the psychology behind U-Hauling, the Oxytocin Express, lesbian math, and why we fall so fast—so you can stop repeating the same relationship cycle and start dating with clarity and confidence.
Table of Contents
Table of Contents
I. Wired for Connection – The Sapphic Brain Explained
II. Emotion Ocean
III. How Orgasm and Oxytocin Betray You
IV. Hearts on Fire
V. Lesbian Limerence
VI. U-Haul University
VII. Gaydar Guidance
VIII. Lesbi Honest Tips
IX. Flannel Fitting 101
X. Rainbow Romance Rundown
XI. Attached at the Hip: Navigating Lesbian Love and Attachment Styles
XII. Lover Girl or Toxic
Why Do Lesbians Bond So Quickly?
I’ve been a therapist for over 20 years, and I kept noticing the same patterns show up again and again in lesbian dating—intense connections, fast emotional bonding, and relationships that can feel all-consuming early on. This guide breaks down the psychology behind those experiences, from attachment styles to the role of oxytocin and limerence. It helps you understand why things can move so quickly and why it can be hard to step back, even when something doesn’t feel right. I also share honest, practical insights to help you recognize unhealthy patterns and make more intentional dating choices. The goal is to help you build relationships that feel grounded, secure, and truly fulfilling instead of overwhelming or confusing.
What is the Oxytocin Express?
Lesbian dating is the only place where you can meet someone on Friday and by Sunday you’re comparing childhood wounds and sharing a Google calendar.
We don’t “catch feelings”—we download the entire emotional operating system in one weekend.
And somehow, we keep making all of the same mistakes....